A lack of trust is one of the most difficult hurdles to overcome in any intimate relationship. It represents a simple lack of trust in oneself, and an overreliance on the workings of time. Trust is eroded by memories of past indiscretions and fears of future problems. When you worry too much about the past and future, you create speculative problems to worry about.
There may not be anything wrong right now, but if you start thinking about all of the things that could go wrong, you’ll drive yourself insane. People spend hours a day thinking about things that could go wrong. Why bother? Trust requires you to make peace with yourself in the present moment. Once you can trust yourself to be present, you can trust other people. If someone hurts you, you have the power to simply walk away. But, if you choose to remain in the company of someone, you must give them your trust by default. If you don’t, you won’t get it in return, and the relationship will erode.
When you cease to trust someone, you make them inherently untrustworthy. This begins a cycle that’s really difficult to remove yourself from. If you want to trust someone, trust them. There’s only one way to find out if you made the right call. Have the self-respect to trust the present moment and to not invent false scenarios in your mind that cause you to mistrust people, and, in turn, become untrustworthy.